The Etiquette of Monogrammed Jewelry
Monogrammed jewelry comes with a very personal and traditional detail, but is it true that there’s etiquette involved? Definitely! But what basis does this etiquette have?
Plenty of things are involved in monogramming etiquette, including letter sizes, correct sequence of initials, whether or not the couple is heterosexual, and all the others. Are the possibilities confusing? They’re not that difficult, but you do need a good grasp of monogramming from then till now.
Monogramming is actually the world’s earliest form of identification, going back well into the times of the Greeks and Romans. It has served a lot of purposes, from being a type of currency in the barter system to being a signature for royals and artists, and more. Probably the most apparent role of monograms these days is the identification of properties, from linens to yes, jewelry. Of course, we know that they are usually ornate, and that’s what makes monogramming a popular option for gift-giving.
One-letter monograms are traditionally based on the surname. That holds for both men and single women. Nowadays, single-letter monograms for unmarried women are the first letter of their first names.
The monograms used these days are mainly traditional Victorian, which includes three letters. How these should be arranged depends on marital status a well as letters’ sizes in the monogram.
If a monogram contains letters of the same size, the those letters should be the first of the monogram owner’s first, middle and last name, in that specific order. Also, this setup is for unmarried men and unmarried women.
Big Surname Letter at the Center
For unmarried men and women, the first letters of their first, last and middle names must be used in that specific sequence. And the surname has to be the largest and centered font.
For married couples, there are two concepts. One is that the first initial of the bride must be on the left of the surname initial, and the first initial of the groom is on the right – as in the principle of “ladies first.” Historically, this is used on linens.
A more modern setup is the groom’s first initial coming before the bride’s, to follow the tradition of Mr. & Mrs. Although used on tableware and glasses before, this is now commonly used on jewelry. In a three-letter monogram of a married woman, the tradition is to use the initial of her maiden name as her middle initial. Or she can use the initials of her first name, married name and middle name. Lastly, for same-sex couples, the initials of both their names will be used as the surname.